Communication

I've been quiet here. Not much to say which is good, I think. The husband and I are busy working on our communication. I've come to realize that I can't assume that he is mad at me when he is in a bad mood. This is a huge step for me, and very very difficult to do. I want to take the blame and try to make it better. I can't. He has to learn to work through these moods, and do it without making me feel horrible.

That has been happening. I ask him if he's upset with me. He says no, he's upset with ______ or upset about _____ . I believe him and we move on. It can be hard. It's especially hard when he needs to yell and curse to get the frustration out. but we are moving forward in talking to each other.